Do Programmers have Girlfriends?
Some programmers have girlfriends while others do not. There are a lot of factors that make some programmers have partners and others not to have. There are some prevailing concepts that make others believe that having a girlfriend as a programmer is time-wasting and makes you inefficient, but that’s not true.
These concepts are pushed by a lot of young programmers on social media and other platforms. The stereotype of programmers being single and loners are not especially true when you look at the industry. There are a lot of programmers who have partners and some who are happily married.
Actually, when programmers find a right, and resourceful girlfriend, or lifelong partner, they can even become more efficient, less stressed, and happy. (Imagine finding a girlfriend who can help you to find, and fix bugs. 😊😊😊)
It is true that there are a lot of programmers who are single, but programming is not the sole reason for being single, it may slightly, or in some way contribute to having difficulties in finding a partner, but there are more factors at play and we are going to consider them later.
Being a programmer should not deter you from having a partner, as long as you are ready to have a girlfriend, you should boldly take the step. There is no correlation between being a good programmer and not having a girlfriend.
WHY ARE MOST PROGRAMMERS SINGLE?
There are many factors that contribute to being single, it is worth noting that programmers are not single solely because they are programmers, personality, age, and a choice of hobbies are some of the other factors that can contribute to being single.
Most programmers are not outgoing, and programming is very attractive to introverts, being alone with a computer, fast internet, and spending endless hours forcing the computer to bend to your will is more attractive than being with others where you will constantly have to think of the next word to say.
Introverts generally find it a little bit hard to fit in, much worse to go after a girl, it seems to take more effort to attract a girl’s attention than to find, and fix a bug. If you are a programmer and you are an extrovert, you probably have a girlfriend already, not very much likely if you are an introvert.
Being an introvert is one of the reasons why some programmers are single, actually, many introverts (not only programmers) have difficulties finding a partner.
- CHOICE OF HOBBIES
Most programmers for some reason enjoy gaming as their main hobby, discussions of games, and gaming consoles such as PlayStation, and Xbox are very common among developers, plus, the advancement of gaming consoles and online gaming has made gaming extremely attractive.
While other hobbies require you to be out there playing and interacting with people, gaming restricts you to your couch, similar to programming, it is just you, the screen, and the controller, you will hardly have time to go out and meet potential partners.
Another common hobby among programmers is reading, which also does not give you enough time to meet other people (girls), whom you can start a relationship with.
- NATURE OF WORK
The nature of work also contributes to having hard times in finding a partner, programmers spend most of their time on the computer, which leaves little room for interaction. Plus. Some programmers work long hours to beat deadlines, making it even harder to have enough time for girls.
Even with the rise of remote work, which is meant to give programmers more flexibility and time, many programmers will still be confined to their computers to finish up projects, fix bugs, and beat deadlines.
When you add sleeping late, it even becomes worse, it becomes a cycle of bad sleeping habits, not allowing you to meet others at optimal times.
While most fields are filled with adults, programming has room for teenagers, some as young as 12 years. These young stars are more likely to be single to focus on their studies among other things. Others are simply not independent or mature enough to have girlfriends.
- GENERAL TREND
It’s not just programmers who are single, according to Pew Research, there has been a general rise of adults between 25 and 54 who are living without a partner. This means singleness is a general trend that is affecting not only programmers but most people. Many people are generally choosing to be single.
DO PROGRAMMERS HAVE FEELINGS?
There is also this concept that programmers should not have a girlfriend because they do not have feelings. Others view programmers to be weird, emotionless, and super intelligent, some of these traits are often amplified in movies. But that’s not true.
Programmers like everyone else have feelings, they get stressed, they struggle with mental health, they need other people by their side, and they literally go through all the things that each one of us goes through.
Just because they have mastered the art of talking to computers does not mean they do not have feelings. They are humans like each one of us. I am a programmer, and I don’t feel any different from other people. If you know any programmers, please show them some love, they need it.
ARE GIRLS ATTRACTED TO PROGRAMMERS?
Yes, girls are attracted to programmers like they are to other people. AboutMech.com did a survey in which 61% of girls said that programmers are the most attractive for boyfriends. Despite all this, you need to make sure that you are attractive as a person, not because you are a programmer.
HOW TO GET A GIRLFRIEND AS A PROGRAMMER?
If you decide that you want to have a girlfriend but you are not sure how, let me help you out, here is how you go about it.
First thing first, you need to reduce the time you spend on the screen and go out there to meet new people. If your hobby is gaming, shake things up a little bit, reduce the time you spend gaming and try a hobby that you can do with other people.
Next, you need to identify the type of girl you want, not any girl will be your match even if they are very beautiful. You need someone with whom you can share common interests, if you happen to meet someone while doing your hobby, that’s a great starting point.
If you identify the girl with whom you share a lot of interests, be confident enough to lead the way, you can start with a mere greeting, the next time you see her, do the same, a greeting and a few words, don’t be in a hurry, and take it easy.
Continue building on your conversations, and pay attention to what she converses with you, all through your meetings, just be yourself, don’t be someone else. When you are interested in someone, and that person is interested in you, its shows in how they glow in your presence.
The more you meet and converse with a girl, the more you will know if she is interested in you and if the two of you can match going forward. If you find that you like the girl, and you want to take things north, do not be afraid to ask her out.
The most important thing is to be genuine, trustworthy, respectful, and kind. Make sure you are getting a girl who is genuinely interested in you, and your work. Programming is stressful enough; you don’t want to multiply the stress by partnering with the wrong girlfriend.
It can be seen that some programmers have girlfriends while others do not have, some programmers have difficulties having a partner because of their personality, and choice of hobbies while some programmers have simply chosen not to have a partner.
Being a programmer does not mean you should not have a girlfriend, you can have a girlfriend and still be the best programmer in the world, you can have no girlfriend, and still be the worst programmer. So, YES, some programmers have girlfriends.